Sex during and after pregnancy

Topics of conversation like the Sex during or immediately after the Pregnancy are topics that like to be treated only superficially and swept under the rug right away at the first hint of discomfort, because admittedly no one likes to talk about problems like a low libido.
You may be feeling a little frustrated or looking for a way to get the fun back in sex. We'll try to answer the most important questions.

Bleeding after sex - Is it normal?

The fact that a slight film of blood or bleeding can be detected after sex is even relatively common in the context of pregnancy. This occurs especially during sexual intercourse in the first few months. The cause is the fact that the fine blood vessels that supply the cervix can tear due to the mechanical stress during sex. Even though this is usually completely normal and unproblematic, there is no harm in consulting your gynecologist, because in some cases there may be medical reasons why sex is not recommended.

These include, for example:

• Placenta previa (a defective position of the placenta)
• Unexplained vaginal bleeding
• A miscarriage already in the past
• A weak cervix, which can cause a premature birth

Does the sex hurt?

Whether you're pregnant or not, pain during sex is not normal, nor are you encouraged to let it wash over you. If sex feels painful during or after the nine months, you should make an appointment with a therapist who will help you relax with special pelvic floor exercises. This measure can already work wonders. To increase comfort during sex even in the advanced stages of pregnancy, some relaxing positions are a good idea.

1- Riding position: There is no pressure for your belly and you alone have control over the penetration and the angle of penetration.
2- Spoon position: The side position takes the pressure off your belly and helps you assume a more comfortable position for penetration.
3- On the edge of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed and your partner stands in front of the bed. This way you are completely unburdened and can relax completely even with a bulging baby bump.

What about sex after birth?

After giving birth, many women feel stressed, run down and tired and have everything else, but definitely no desire for sex. This doesn't even have anything to do with really wanting to, but is also due to physical processes in which your body recovers from the strain of the past nine months and the birth. Experts recommend a period of six weeks after birth until the next time you have sex. However, this advice is not a blanket model, so this period can be longer or shorter for you. In any case, it is important that you are not in pain before you can start again gently. But if this is the case, nothing stands in the way, because sex is the optimal boost for emotional well-being.

Is sex safe if the pelvic floor muscles are lowered?

In principle, this is possible without any problems even if the pelvic floor muscles are lowered. However, you may have to experiment a little with the positions to find the one that works best for you and your body. So you don't have to be afraid of it. In fact, the symptoms associated with pelvic floor muscle descent may even improve after sex.

Why do I have pain during sex after giving birth?

Because your body has been put under a lot of strain by the pregnancy, you may feel pain the first time you have sex after giving birth. But where does this pain come from?

• It is possible that an injury to the pelvic floor muscles occurred during childbirth.
• The hormonal influences of breastfeeding can result in a dry vagina.
• Unless you had a C-section, the wounds may hurt for a while.
• Stress, such as that caused subliminally by caring for your baby, can increase the perception of pain.
•  If you don't take enough time for foreplay, your body isn't ready for sex.

First of all, it should be mentioned again that pain during sex after childbirth is completely normal. Therefore, take it slowly and, if necessary, consult your family doctor, because the main thing is that you really feel well during sex.

5 final tips for better sex after pregnancyt

• To loosen up your pelvic floor muscles, you should undergo appropriate relaxation training. Most health insurance companies cover the use of such a therapist, who can turn your sex life around in no time.
• Use high-quality oils or lubricants that both improve the feeling during sex and care for your body, thus additionally promoting your well-being.
• Take things slowly and listen to your body. It takes a while for sex to feel the same as before.
• Even if you don't have much time, you should plan an extensive foreplay to get into the right mood and stimulate the blood flow in your abdomen.
• Experiment with different positions and choose the ones where you have control over the speed and intensity of penetration.