7 secrets of happy couples

Keep your sex life on track with these tips from experts as well as happy and satisfied couples.
What are the secrets? A hot sex life is like a hot body. You have to work for it. For the first six months to two years, the newness creates the passion in a relationship. After that, you have to make sure the flame keeps burning. Many couples think there is something wrong with them if they have to work on their sex life. However, long-term relationships require some effort to keep the energy going between both partners. What makes happy couples so satisfied? How can your sex life get better too? Below, you can read the results that have emerged from talking to top experts as well as investigating the latest research.

Secret No. 1: They never stop "dating

Couples who play together stay together. In a recent survey of close to 100000 couples who regularly date, 88 percent described themselves as happy. Famous dating is not just for getting to know each other for the first time. It is a chance to seduce each other again and again. In this way, love can be maintained and the dullness of the sometimes dull everyday life can be counteracted. This point is very important because couples feel considerably more connected and have better sex as a result. What can you do?

Set one night a week as your dating date. Do it just for the fun of it. You may be surprised when you suddenly have butterflies in your stomach again, but there's a reason for that. According to one study, the human brain responds to these kinds of joint activities in the same way it does to the first few dates. Continuously recurring dates are a reliable way to keep rekindling the feelings of infatuation. You don't have to go skydiving together. It can be enough to build a snowman together, go to an art class, or go bar hopping together for the first time since college.

Secret No. 2: They take care of their bodies

Research shows how health promotes sex and vice versa. One study of men found that two orgasms a week can help them live longer. You'll have to do most of the health-promoting work outside the bedroom. For example, a Mediterranean diet - with plenty of fruits, vegetables, olive oil and fish - can actually have a positive impact on the female sex drive. Regular exercise not only improves your cardiovascular system. It releases endorphins, as well as small amounts of the stress hormone cortisol, and increases testosterone levels in the blood. Together, this can increase your libido. What can you do?

Eat healthy, exercise daily and stay away from cigarettes, cigars and alcohol. If you are active and fit, you will feel better in your body and have more energy for sex. Want to reboot your fitness life slowly, start with yoga. A recent study found that women who practiced yoga for three months experienced greater sexual desire and arousal, as well as better orgasm. Sign up for a yoga class at your gym and be ready for your partner.

Secret No. 3: .... and they are not shy to show themselves naked

This is a very important factor. Gloom destroys any excitement. If you are busy worrying about what your partner thinks about your body, you will never be able to enjoy the moment. Stop inhibiting yourself. Couples who feel free enjoy all the emotions during intercourse. This isn't just about the size of your breasts or the girth of your belly. You should - and can - be happy with your genitals, too. Women who feel positive about their own genitals have orgasms more often. Women who feel good about themselves are 61 times more likely to be sexually satisfied than women who are constantly moping around. What can you do?

A good intimate care is optimal to stimulate you sexually. The first waxing treatment in the bikini area has already changed the sexual life of many women. They think about sex every time they pull down their underpants; and men appreciate their effort. Studies confirm that women completely shaved in the genital area have a more positive image of themselves. If you don't want to do a waxing treatment, a shave or shower right before the date can do the trick. If you feel uncomfortable being completely naked, put on boxers and a bra. Find out what suits you best and feel like a superstar in your own skin.

Secret No.4: You become emotionally naked and open up completely

Maybe you can remember the last time you were so brave and asked him if you were still blowing his mind. Be honest with yourself and him alike, though: Have you talked about fixing "technical" glitches or how to use a vibrator? Things like that will bring you closer together. The ears can be the most important sex organ. The more a couple talks to each other about sex, the more they lay the foundation for a fulfilling sex life. What can you do?

Your joint tête-à-tête can take place, for example, with a flirt over a cocktail. Have fun with it. Sex is fun. It's about you, not your finances. Use positive phrases when talking to each other about things to get you hot. Phrases like "I hate it when you ..." accomplish the opposite. Instead, try something like "I have a fantasy that ..." instead. Are you ready?

Secret 5: They arrange to have affairs

Between work, household and children, there's not much room for sex. That's why smart couples don't rely on spontaneity and make a schedule. They either agree specifically on a date or more vaguely ("We'll have sex by the end of the weekend."). During this time, they are affectionate with each other, give each other compliments, and provoke each other ("I can't wait to..."). All this adds up and increases the desire until it happens. What can you do?

Make regular dates for your lovemaking. When the time comes, have sex. This is true even if you're not in the mood or annoyed with each other at the moment. It's just like those moments when you force yourself onto the cross-trainer. Afterwards, you'll be glad you did it, too. Just get started. At a certain point, your brains will take over and let the excitement run wild. In the end, you may want more than you actually planned. On sex-free days you should be very affectionate with each other to maintain your bond (e.g. with the spoon position).

Secret 6: You do not judge yourselves by orgasms

Experienced couples focus their sex life on doing something good for their relationship. Only then comes the pleasure. According to studies, this leads to better sex than if the goal is to have as many orgasms as possible. This way, you'll also be better able to handle it if your sex goes differently than you thought it would. This is especially smart if you've been together for a long time. There, not every sex act can be the revelation. That's okay. The main thing is that you're intimate with each other. That's what matters. What can you do?

Enjoy the flower sex without reading too much into it. Build on these basics. Just as you work out at the gym doing different exercises on different days of the week, you can also live out different types of sex practices to spice up your love life. Find your ideal mix. Go beyond the purely physical connection. Because sex means freedom, living out your fantasies, and trust. Only when you optimally "mesh" will you also reach satisfying climaxes.

Secret 7: You get better with age

Dynamic duos know that their best days in terms of sex are still ahead of them. They see getting older as an opportunity for their sex life. It gives them time to grow up together. It allows them to figure out what works and dare to actually go down the road together. Some of the benefits have to do with logistics. Nearly 84 percent of couples want to try something new in the bedroom. According to an online survey, those who build the necessary trust and communicate intensively with each other in a long-term relationship are more likely to set out for new shores. The longer a couple has been together, the more likely they are to be ready for new sexual adventures. What can you do?

Your adventure doesn't have to be a new chapter from "Fifty Shades of Grey". Just try out new circumstances. How about a different room, a different time of day (e.g. morning instead of evening), an unusual place (the floor?), new light sources or new tools. Have you ever used a lubricating cream? It is known from surveys that it can increase sexual pleasure.